Love more – the third of the five secrets
What kind of love are we talking about—romantic love, love of family, love of life, love of humanity, all of the above? And the answer is… all of the above. It’s true, think about it. Love brings us the greatest pleasures and the greatest regrets. One of the best things I have figured out about having a happy and purposeful life is about not only the receiving of love but the giving of love, and being a loving compassionate person. I consider myself one of the fortunate ones to have finally figured this out.
The first step is to love yourself, with all your flaws. For some of us, it was easy because of the way were brought up and the sense of self worth we were blessed with. For others, it is something that we learned ourselves. I also know that for some of us it came later in our lives. And if you are not there yet, please know that it is fundamental to living a happy life. But more on that in another post.
The second thing is to make loving others a priority in your life. Make and keep loving relationships with family and friends even though at times it can be trying. Keep these relationships at the forefront of your life and make them priorities in your life.This says it all, love those people in your lives who truly bring you happiness.
Choose to see others with kindness. Here is a beautiful example of being kind and loving to others. Great friends of ours, Norm and Beth have been married for 42 years. They’ve known each other since they were in their teens and once they were married Norm stopped on his way home from work every Friday and bought Beth flowers. When I asked him why he did that he replied “that’s easy it makes Beth happy, and, we both like having flowers in the house.” Then he added “it’s the same reason Ron (my husband) makes dinner for me on Saturdays.” Norm and Beth are retired now and he still buys flowers for her but now they do it together.
Lastly, do good if you can to everyone, but always do no harm. Have consideration for others and be compassionate to those around you. It’s easy to walk past that homeless person on the street and think to yourself, “get a job” but we don’t know the circumstances that put that person there on the street corner. We haven’t lived his or her life. Be kind, give a smile. Sometimes we forget that by what we say or do, we can make or break someones day. Be kind to everyone around you.
Next, watch for Step Four, Live the moment.