Leave No Regrets – the second of the five secrets

Jul 23, 2016 | Turning 60 and Beyond | 0 comments

One of my biggest regrets is getting married so young. I just turned 18, and it lasted all of six months. What a disaster—what was I thinking. I wasn’t in love, I was in love with the idea of love. But that’s that and I don’t even think about it anymore. Why? Today I am married to the greatest man a girl could ask for and he is just perfect for me.

As we grow older, I think one of the things we fear the most is this fear of regret. Everyone has regrets. I know I certainly do. I am sure even the wisest, influential people in the world have a regret or two. I don’t think anyone lives a perfect life. It’s all about not wanting to look back on our lives and wish we had done something—but were afraid. Afraid to try—because what if we fail; what if it was a mistake. Why not look at it this way, what if we don’t fail—what if it is the greatest pleasure we have experienced in our lives.

What if I fall

One of the best things I learned in John Izzo’s book, the five secrets you must discover before you die” is in this story. Ask yourself “When I am really old and sitting in my favorite chair, will I regret this step I am about to take. What’s the worst that could happen? And what’s the best that could happen? We can’t guarantee success in everything we do but we can guarantee failure if we don’t pursue our dreams. And that’s at any age. Don’t live your life saying If Only.

But in your later life, the worst you can do is focus on your regrets. Don’t beat yourself up about all those not so smart things you did or didn’t do. They are over, in the past. First, forgive yourself, and then go on living. If there is someone or something that you need to make amends, gather your courage, put on your big girl panties and do it. It may be difficult, but in the end you will be much happier. In conclusion, deal with your regrets and have no more. Follow your passion, follow your dream and take the risk.

 

“IN THE END… We only regret the chances we didn’t take,

the relationships we were afraid to have,

and the decisions we waited too long to make.”
Lewis Carroll