Tips on Living a Perfect Life At Any Age
Today I am sitting at my computer at my makeshift desk—the end of the dining room table—and this thought came to mind—I am perfectly happy with my life and I am perfect just the way I am. Don’t get me wrong I have many flaws but for me I am perfectly imperfect. I am just the right person for my husband, I have a very happy life and I thoroughly enjoy my life just the way it is. I’m sure I’m not perfect in everyone’s eyes but for me, right now, in this instant, I am. So what is it that makes me think I’m perfect? Because I finally accept myself just the way I am. I laugh (sometimes at myself), I have fun, I live up to my expectations of being a loving, kind, gentle person who is empathetic to those around me and I love my life just the way it is, flaws and all.
To be perfect is an image we put on ourselves. Everyday we are invaded with images depicting perfection. This is what the perfect body looks like. Here’s the perfect outfit and the perfect shoes to go with it. Then we need perfect hair and make-up. I once knew a woman who took over an hour and a half to get ready to go out. It took her 45 minutes to put her makeup on. I thought she was beautiful before she put the makeup on and she could wear a gunny sack and look good, but she didn’t see it.
We strive all our lives to find perfect. We want to find the perfect partner, have the perfect family, have the perfect home. No wonder we feel so pressured trying to live up to all the perfections we place on ourselves. And when we don’t meet our own idea of said perfection, we beat ourselves up for our failures.
Somewhere along the line in the pursuit all things perfect, we lose our sense of self worth. We put unrealistic pressures on ourselves to reach that imaginary state of perfection and in the process we suffer—we lose our sense of joy and wonder. But perfection is a subjective state—what we think is perfect may not be someone else’s perfect. Everyone, young or old, is living their own definition of what perfect means. We create our own reality. It’s our own mindset that determines perfect and when we fail to live up to our own expectations, we feel like we failed, and feel vulnerable. We are so afraid of being ridiculed, misunderstood, feeling stupid, taken advantage of, or being hurt. And in turn our insecurities build up and we lose our ourselves. That’s no way to live.
I can tell you it was a long hard road for me to feel the way I do now. There were many many times when I didn’t live up to my own expectations, didn’t live up to the expectations of my family, and maybe sometimes I still don’t. I was very unhappy at times in my pursuit to be all things perfect, daughter, employee, girlfriend, the perfect person.
So what makes me think I am perfect now. It took years in the making and I probably came to more of a realization in the last fifteen years. It came from gaining the confidence to take a few risks, lots and lots of acceptance, and gratitude for the person I have become. I did it myself and I can now proudly say I am happy with the person I have become.
So think about this, every one of you—beyond the masks we all wear, beyond the clothes, the hair, the makeup, is a beautiful and perfect person. You need to take off that mask and start the journey to accepting yourself just the way you are. Then and only then will you accept the fact that you too are perfect just the way you are.
I’d love to know where you are in your pursuit of being perfect.
Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are.